Thank you Mother, I am grateful to you!

THANK YOU MOTHER

My Mother taught me one of the greatest lessons of my life; tie the loose ends of life regularly, and to achieve that, she said, forgive and seek forgiveness, don't carry ill-will beyond a minute, and express your gratitude before you lose the chance to do it. Her life was an example! She took her last breath 13 years ago today.

The best accomplishment of my life was telling her that I loved her and that whatever I am today is because of her, and that I am grateful to her - just a day before she took her last breath.

The second best thing I have done was to sit next to her on my last few visits, and listen to her without interrupting... and without arguing, and that is all she wanted! She was in hog heavens and pushed me out to go and do other things!

Her comments that have stuck to me are - on the day of accountability (Qayamat in Islamic tradition) each one is on his or her own, and solely responsible for his actions. Only the good deeds you have done will gracefully save you. Then she said, whoever controls his own self, has won the world ( It took me 20 years to understand what she meant) and the Verse from Quran that says "to you is your way of life and to me is my way of life", let's respectfully accept each other as the way we are.

She was Pluralistic in her approach - She had friends from every walk of life. There was the Jain neighbor lady, Hindu friends, Swaran Latha, the Christian Lady and the Parsi-amma Mrs. Bahramjee and of course Muslim ladies too. She had no barriers between her and people around her.

Every religious tradition has elevated mother to nearly the status of God, because she possess many a qualities of God; kind, merciful, beneficent and caring among thousand other qualities. Mother is the reason for our existence; sustenance, nurturance and shaping who we are. I applaud those who have grown up without a mother; it takes a lot to be a beautiful being without the nurturance from a mother.

Every time I think of my parents, I realize they have passed on the "Pluralism" gene to me, my sister and brothers and my family. When I talk with my sister, I feel I have not improved much in the last 40 years- I am right with her with all that education and experience.

Well, I sat up this morning thinking about her and appreciating her, did my Prayers to thank her and I feel refreshed.

Now I ask you to consider tying the loose ends of your life, its nirvana! Mukti, Moksha, Nijaat and Salvation.

Thank you Mother.

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My mother, what a mother!

I called up my brother Kalim today, the fourth one among four brothers and a sister. He is physically not on par with the others, and he could not even finish his high school either, despite all the sincere efforts he made, it did not work out for him.

My mother was super defensive about him, and perhaps I am too, since my father’s death in 1977, and through early Nineties, I took care of the family, then my youngest one took care of it until a few years ago. Many times before her death, my mother had asked me to take care of Kalim- and that was a promise I took seriously, always defensive about him, and always ready to take care of him, and made sure no adverse decisions were made in the family to affect him. My sister and I are like twins, never fought in life, and always understood each other.  But the only time I have fought with her to the point where she did not speak with me for 4 hours was defending Kalim on a silly thing.

Today, I called him up, and said that the monies coming from the sale of our Parents property this month, would completely free me from that promise to mother. He is on his own now, with his kids making good monies as well. It was such a relief to me; I don’t need to concern myself about him anymore.

Then I suggested that a certain amount of money be placed in fixed deposits in his name and his wife’s name – as a security for old age, I would not be comfortable without it. Then he said – Mother has already done that…. My first response was, oh mother, I thought I was not sending enough money, but here you are, doing the right thing, taking care of the one who needed most.  Mother I salute you, I wish I could have said that, when you were alive!  Thank you. Amma.

Mike Ghouse
www.MikeGhouse.net